Hellooooo people! So I know this Kirsten Dunst story is a few days old but whatever! I wanted to write about it because I have a few things to say about it. For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, here’s the deal … Kirsten Dunst shared a few thoughts she had on gender roles in relationships with Harper’s Bazaar U.K. She stated, “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued…we all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking — it’s a valuable thing my mom created.” She ALSO decided to add, “Sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I’m sorry, you need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work.”
Yikes. You can image how much of a controversial buzz this started on the internet. Feminists were pretty much roaring! Here is what I have to say about the matter. I’m pro the alpha female. That woman who is like Samantha Jones on Sex and the City. That woman who isn’t dependent or anyone or any MAN. Maybe she was promiscuous but she was independent. I don’t think that just because a woman isn’t a housewife or stay at home mom that that means she has no femininity. I applaud women who are independent and strong. I don’t know what the hell she meant by that first statement. I don’t see how femininity is undervalued in society. There are plenty of stay at homes moms and that’s perfectly great. There are plenty of stay at home dads and that’s cool, too. Everyone lives their lives differently. Now, for the second statement…. she should have worded that COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. Knight in shining armour? I get it. I grew up on Disney movies. However, what the hell does she mean by “you need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman” ?! Huh? Now, to her defense she may have not explicitly said “Women belong in the kitchen” but it was implied .. at least it was to me. That’s NOT why relationships work. Not to offend anyone, but there are PLENTY of “nurturing, cooking, stay at home” women who are single or get divorced. We ALL know that. So, where exactly is that coming from Dunst? There are plenty of single moms who work and take cares of the children, which I think is AMAZING. It’s not the “ideal” but it’s still applaud worthy. Gender roles are a thing of the past. Not every relationship needs an alpha and a beta. It can be alpha/alpha or beta/beta. It’s all depends on the people in the relationship.
I understand she grew up in a certain family environment and she’s definitely entitled to her opinion. The problem is she should’ve stated it differently. That’s all *shrug*